Healthy Relationships – Spouse
Things have changed and not necessarily for the better:
- 1960 – 73% of adults were married
- Today – 53% of adults are married
Time Magazine did a poll that up to 40% of Americans believe that marriage is obsolete
There are 2400 divorces a day in our country!
God created Adam and Eve and they felt:
- No insecurities
- No shame
- No put downs
- No condemning
- No accusing
What did Eve see when she looked at the fruit?
See Genesis 3:6
“When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it.”
Can you see the common thread in temptation here?
Eve saw something that looked good to her eyes and pleased her
Our vow to love gets replaced by my right to be happy
So what makes YOU happy?
- Friends/ family
- Being alone
- Being with people
- Being right
HERE IS OUR CHALLENGE:
- We feel like we have a right to be happy
- We are willing to do just about anything to get it
So what happens when we start living to make ourselves happy?
- Adam and Eve pointed fingers
- We usually hurt others by our selfishness
- We place our feelings and needs above others
What do we do if someone gets in the way of our happiness?
What happens when our spouse gets in our way of happiness?
What happens when God’s way does not make us as happy as another way of lifestyle?
If we don’t start with a right relationship with God we will not be able to have a right relationship with others
You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.
What’s the difference between a friend and a servant?
- Follows rules
- Keeps conversation at minimal
- Asks very few questions
- Doesn’t need to know why, just does what told
- Freely talks and listens
- Shares experiences together
- Have fun together