- Emotional Health: Loss
It is impossible to go through life without experiencing loss.
- These events are inevitable. The key is to understand how we respond to them. Many people in the Bible experienced loss.
- Moses, Daniel and Joseph were all removed from their family
- Jeremiah was hated by his peers
- God took Ezekiel’s wife
- God had Hosea put aside his feelings and told him to marry an unfaithful prostitute.
You can put loss into four categories
- Public loss
- Private Loss
- Sudden Loss
- Gradual loss
See 2 Samuel 12
- David sinned (He had Uriah killed and slept with his wife).
- Bathsheba becomes pregnant and David gets caught in his sin.
- The baby is born and soon dies.
1. David accepted what he could not change.
David worked his way through the pain of the death of his child.
- Pleaded with God
- Spent nights lying on the ground
- Accepted the situation
How some people deal with pain and grief.
- Bury it or ignore it
- Medicate it
SOME PEOPLE IN DEEP GRIEF COMMIT RECKLESS SIN.
- The way you handle grief and pain is important.
- The wrong way has consequences.
- The right way has growth.
2. David focused on what was left and not on what was lost
Life changes. How we handle change directly determines how we function in the future.
- Many cultures handle it differently than you or I
- Amish dealing with a death
- High level of support is given the bereaved family for a year.
- Visits, new projects started for them, Make special scrapbooks.
- Judaism – Different time periods to help someone go through the process of mourning.
- Aninut – Period between death and burial
- Shivah – seven days (Sit together as a group and allow the mourners to project their feelings)
- Sheloshim – 30 day period following the burial.
- After this month the mourning process is over except for the parents (Next 11 months)
- Purpose – Designed to promote personal growth and to reintegrate the individual into the community.
3. David turned to God
- 2 Samuel 12:20 Then David got up from the ground. After he had washed, put on lotions and changed his clothes, he went into the house of the Lord and worshipped.
- Grieving is not a sin
- Anger is not a sin
- Struggling with confusion is not a sin.
In John 15:1-2, Jesus says, “I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.”
We must realize that change happens in every life!
- Everything gets cut to one degree or another.
- God cuts things so we can grow.
The end result is new growth.
- We become more compassionate
- We have a greater concern for the poor and those in need.
- We are more content and less demanding
- We are not driven to impress others
- We are kinder people
We place God at the center of our lives.